I expected Real to be extremely skeptical about new-fangled devices that use cloud AI to interpret biodata. After all, human relationships are too complex to take advantage of, amirite? But he surprised me immediately by revealing that he used similar devices in his practice. “HeartMath has a fiction called Emwave,” Real said. – You attach it to your ear or put your thumb on it and turn the light from red to blue to green, doing center practices. When it turns green, you are no longer in a reactive state. I have used this for decades with highly reactive partners. “
As it turns out, real-time biological feedback is useful ̵
You need an experienced therapist to put the data into action. Because real is therapist, I found that I share my data with him and tell him about the context of the source of conflict in my marriage. I grew up outside a large city on the East Coast, while my husband is from a small town to the south. Because of the different social conditions we experienced growing up in these different regions, he occasionally finds the way I speak – speed, tone, the sheer volume of interesting facts or things to remember or want that I pour in for short periods of time. —To be aggressive, irresistible or confrontational.
I will give him some of these points, but Halo also provides evidence that in general I do I am mostly cheerful, high-energy, and rarely irritable or angry. No problem, right? He really disagrees.
“I like to say the answer to the question who is right and who is not” Who cares? “, Said Real. “The feedback is good, as long as you are not hypnotized by the power of objectivity. I don’t want technology to be more important than your humanity. If your husband thinks you are aggressive, your husband wins over the halo. “
“Objectively, you are not irritable. He made it up, “Real continued.” Subjectively, they talk slowly and gently where he is from, and you are not, so could you talk more like what he is used to? Why not? You will try. It only goes that far and it will have to accept as far as you can go. This is how real couples work. “
After a month of testing, I couldn’t wait to download Halo. With its meager selection of features, I just didn’t find it useful as a fitness tracker. It also doesn’t motivate me to move as much as I should. Halo encourages the user to collect 150 activity points per week, but I accumulated so much in one day. And the design without a display didn’t help me get to meetings on time; for this I really need a real dial.