“It’s something in society that is a really big problem and it’s very common,” she told Teru as she discussed her reason for making it public, “but for some reason we’re not talking about it.”
“Being nice to the waiter or being polite to someone who can be seen as flirting or wanting to be in a relationship with someone else when I’m literally just ordering pasta.” I was told I knew what he was. as if I loved him, I would not look men in the eye. This has been my reality for a good four months. “
It is alleged that LaBeouf also asked for a “quota” of physical contact cases in their relationship: “His previous partner obviously got along very well with this number, so I was inadequate compared to his previous partner. And I had to get the touch and kisses right. But I never … knew exactly what the number was. “
If she misses the quota, she says LaBeouf will “start an argument with me, curse me for hours, [and] make me feel like the worst person ever. “
After an incident in which she said LaBoeuf “strangled me” at a gas station, Twigs called a helpline for abused women: “Her reaction to me was so serious … Someone took it so seriously and wanted to take me. somewhere safe. It was a really mass awakening. That’s when I realized I needed a lot of help to get out of it. “
After the call, seeing a therapist, she helped Twigs get to the point where she “managed to leave and leave forever” – and while talking to Teru, she also described in detail the difficulties partners face when trying to to escape violent relationships.
“[Leaving the relationship] I really felt impossible, “she said. I felt so controlled and so confused and so low below me that the fear of leaving and knowing I had to do all this work to get back to feeling good was completely overwhelming. “
“People often ask the victim or the survivor, ‘Why didn’t you leave?’ “Instead of asking the abuser, ‘Why are you holding someone hostage through abusive behavior?’ It’s a fair question to ask me, but it asks me a lot.” This puts a lot on the victims and survivors. “
Twigs also opened up about the future consequences of her openness to the alleged violent relationship: “All I can do is just think about myself when I’m 50 [and] I have children, I think about what I want to stand for, “she explained.
“It’s something that was completely unexpected. I never thought something like this would happen to me. … When I’m older, if I have a daughter, I want to be able to say, ‘This thing happened to me.’ And I dealt with it. It’s a great thing to heal in public and do it in front of everyone, but I can do it. I’m a big girl and I can do it. “
If you or someone you know has been abused, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. You can find more resources, information and support here.
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