to to come of age as a woman, it is too often to learn that your body speaks for you.
Maybe it starts with a holiday – you show up on Thanksgiving and a relative gently asks if you’re “okay” because you’ve gained weight without realizing it. Maybe it’s a title that highlights the way a hot celebrity “parades” with a curve or “shows off” her tight ass by simply existing in physical shape. Or maybe you just read another a story gushing about how happy and healthy a celebrity looks – now that she has lost 30 pounds.
Regardless of how one discovers it, the lesson remains the same: Women̵
Billy Isle knows this better than anyone. From the very beginning of her career, the singer has covered her body in wide clothes – an elective choice, often shaped as a form of challenge. In a short film earlier this year, entitled “Not My Responsibility,” she told footage of her spilling layers of clothing with a spoken word.
“You have opinions – about my opinions, about my music, about my clothes, about my body,” Ailish said in the video, which debuted on tour earlier this year. “Some people hate what I wear, some praise it, some use it to shame others, others use it to shame me, but I feel like you’re watching – always – and nothing I do remains invisible. So as long as I feel your looks, your disapproval, or your sigh of relief, if I lived with them, I would never be able to move. “
But fixing the audience on Ailish’s body remains relentless – as evidenced by the fact that her choice to go out earlier this week in a camisole and shorts has somehow become news. (Again.) People who were obviously incapable of cultivating legitimate hobbies ridiculed her. (As one disgusting Twitter user wrote, “In 10 months, Billy Aishish has developed a mother-of-wine body since the mid-1930s.”) Daily Mail– which often codifies female bodies in exchange for trafficking – uses her “uncharacteristic casual attire” as an excuse to give society what it really wanted all along: pictures of Eilish in tight clothes. “Six took a formidable step forward by launching an image gallery entitled” Every Time Billy Ishish Abandoned His Wide Dress for Tight Clothes.
These reactions prove Ailish’s thesis: Whatever he does, the mania never stops. (“My tits were on trend on Twitter!” She said She last year, after another photo of her in “casual clothing” went viral when she was still 17 years old. “At number one! What is this?! Every store wrote about my tits! “)
Eilish is already reacting to the audience’s latest horror about her existence as a physical being. On Tuesday, she posted a clip from her short video on Instagram, captioning, “Do you really want to go back in time?”
It is encouraging to see that Ailish seems quite worried about all this. But it’s just as infuriating to realize that a singer who just turned 18 last winter has been forced to face these problems so often – and that while she regains the debate over her choice of body and fashion, the public continues to leads the same silly, predictable discussions.
Although Eilish’s broad brand is characterized as rebellion, it began as something more common: insecurity.
Speaking with Stunned this spring, Ailish explained the origins of his style with characteristic frankness: “The only reason I did it was because I hated my body.”
Ailish told the magazine that at times she avoided looking at her own body for long periods of time – a kind of separation known to many, including her young fans. “There was a time last year when I was naked and didn’t recognize my body because I hadn’t seen it in a while,” she said. “I would see him sometimes and I would say, ‘Whose body is this? “
Nowadays, Ailish said, her body image has improved somewhat. (“Not that I like it now[тялото си]I just think I’m a little better with that, “she said.) But now, she noted, people’s sharp reactions when she splits off her usual attire leave her in something like Catch-22. “Like, dude. I it can not win, ”she said. “I can-no I win. “
“Ailish told the magazine that at times she avoided looking at her own body for long periods of time – a kind of separation known to many, including her young fans.”
It doesn’t help that Elish’s style has often been discussed at the instigation of disgraceful filth towards other artists. Speaking last year with Pharrell Williams about Magazine VAilish noted that some have praised her for avoiding traditionally feminine clothing – and, in addition, rejects the sexual provocation adopted by some of her pop contemporaries. She doesn’t like that at all.
“I wear what I want to wear,” Ailish said. “But, of course, everyone sees it as, ‘She says’ no’ to sexualization” and “She says’ no ‘to being a stereotypical woman.” “
“It’s a strange thing because I know a lot of what I hear is positive or people are trying to be positive about how I dress; how I’m never really out there wearing anything or dresses, ‘Ailish continued. “I heard that.” [Even] from my parents [the] positive [comments] for how I dress, I have this element to be ashamed of. For example, “I’m so glad you’re dressing like a boy so that other girls can dress like boys so they’re not sluts.” That sounds basically to me. And I can’t [overstate how] I definitely don’t appreciate it at all. “
“For example, “I’m so glad you’re dressing like a boy so that other girls can dress like boys so they’re not sluts.” That sounds basically to me. And I can’t [overstate how] I don’t really appreciate it at all.”
“I’ve always supported and fucked, and I’ve just loved when a woman or a man or someone in the world feels comfortable in their skin, in their body, to show what they want,” Ailish concluded. “I don’t like that there is this strange new world in which you support me by embarrassing him [may not] I want to [dress like me]. “
As Eilish made it clear, her fashion choices should not be used to define or judge others. But this would require the public to treat their bodies as their own, not as a symbolic commodity in the public domain. And since our apparent inability to see a picture of her in the camisole and move on without comment was underscored, this is not the case.
So far in her career, Ailish has managed to do her thing without worrying too much about what critics and idiots might say online. We hope she sticks to this sense of self-control. But this is a force he should not need at all to develop. At some point, it would be nice if we could all just learn, assimilate, and accept a simple truth: Unless it’s your body, you really don’t need to comment. You do not need to form an opinion. This is not your concern. This is not your job.
In the meantime, let’s all be grateful for the dedication of this green-haired singer to dress, damn it, even when she wants to – even when strangers on the Internet don’t know what to do with it.
“Sometimes I dress like a boy,” Ailish said in British GQ this summer. “Sometimes I dress like a lost girl. And sometimes I feel trapped by this person I created, because sometimes I think people don’t see me as a woman. “
According to her, this is exactly what is intended to combat her video on the tour. “I say: look, there is a body under these clothes and you can’t see it. Isn’t it embarrassing? But my body is mine and yours is yours. Our own bodies are the only real things that are truly ours. I see it and show it whenever I want. “