Sarah Mahalchik and her future husband talked at one of their first meetings about wanting to adopt. There were many children who needed parents, they told themselves from the beginning.
But when they were ready to expand their family, they chose fertility treatments, including in vitro fertilization. It seemed to make sense: Ms. Mahalchick’s employer would pay for much of the treatment through his health insurance; offered almost no adoption assistance.
Fertility benefits are becoming almost fashionable for companies with blue chips, with more and more companies offering to help with the cost of IVF and egg freezing. But in many cases, companies that offer infertility benefits do not provide financial assistance to employees who want to adopt, and when they do, the benefits of adoption are often much less generous.
Estimates of how many companies offer fertility or adoption benefits are vague. Most employers do not give either. But the difference is clear.
The Society for Human Resources Management estimates that by 201