Emily Ratajkowski welcomed her son Sylvester Apollo in March – and now she is facing her first public experience with her mother.
Ratajkowski, 30, came under fire after posting several photos of the baby holding Sylvester on vacation. “Bday eve with the dream holiday partner,” she wrote in the caption of a post showing several photos of her son in matching swimsuits.
Pierce Morgan, a father of four, shared one of the photos on Twitter, along with this message: “You don’t hold baby @emrata like that – and your millions of followers shouldn’t be encouraged to do the same. Congratulations for giving you some tips if you need them. “
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Ratajkowski ruled out comments in his Instagram post, which is liked by more than 1,900,000 million people.
Ratajkowski is hardly the first celebrity to encounter his mother. Singer Pink promised in 2019 on The Ellen DeGeneres Show to stop posting about her children on social media after being repeatedly criticized for photos and videos she shares. Former Olympic gymnast Sean Johnson also spoke in 2020, after regularly commenting on his parenting skills, saying in his Instagram stories that “all of us mothers do the best we can. We try, we cry, we ‘are making our way again. So you guys have to celebrate all the cheats there. If you have advice, try to say it in a very kind way, because, let’s be real: none of us know what the hell we’re doing. “
Although most people realize that cheating on mom is bad, “people like to be judged,” Dr. Tamar Gur, a psychiatrist and women’s health expert at Ohio State University Medical Center in Wexner, told Yahoo Life. But what most people don’t realize is that making fun of mom can be incredibly hurtful, she says.
“All newborn parents are extremely heavy on themselves,” says Gur. “Our biggest fear for parents is that we are not good enough and shame is doing us a huge disservice.” Gur points out that not only is the mother ashamed “really sick and unfair,” but ultimately “somehow stems from hatred of women and a lack of support for women.”
The right way to hold a baby has been brought up many times by critics and it is understandable to have questions. Dr Danelle Fisher, a pediatrician and chairman of pediatrics at Providence Saint John Health Center in Santa Monica, California, told Yahoo Life that it’s important to keep in mind that younger babies, usually up to four months old, don’t have a good head control. “The muscles of the head and neck are still strengthening, so you want to support the head,” she says.
But once babies get a little older or can sit on their own, “you don’t have to support your head that much,” she says. Holding a baby right around the torso or middle part can also increase the chances that they will spit, she says.
In a perfect scenario, says Fisher, the baby should be supported at once under the arms, torso and head. “There are many different ways to hold a baby and you don’t have to hold them the same way,” she says. “You just want to make sure the baby has good support.”
After all, says Fisher, the amount of support a baby needs while being held really depends on the baby. “We want to assess how well this baby can sit and position and respond to the baby’s needs,” she says.
Whether you know the “right” way to hold a baby or not, if you’re ever tempted to comment on someone’s parenting – other than something incredibly positive – Gur offers this advice: “Don’t joke about thinking you’re helping someone or a child mu. “
And if you end up embarrassed by Mom, Gur suggests reminding yourself that “everyone makes mistakes and sometimes even fails.”
“If you know you’re doing your best and you’re human, other people have no power over you,” she says.
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