So, identify other activities you love and increase them. Whether it’s exercise or spending time with friends, “we need another hole to fill the void left by alcohol,” Dr. Murphy said.
Find your people.
You are more likely to abstain from alcohol if you have support. “Tell as many of your friends and family members who feel safe as possible,” Dr. Murphy said.
It also helps you connect with other people who share your goal. Personal support meetings have become difficult to access in the pandemic, but help has grown a lot online. Free sobriety support communities with virtual appointments include Anonymous Alcoholics, SMART Recovery, SheRecovers, In the Rooms, Eight Step Recovery, Refuge Recovery, Recovery Dharma and LifeRing, among others. Neither good lighting nor charisma is required or expected; join from your phone while walking in the park or sitting in your car.
One Tempest member, Valentin Darling, 32, of Olympia, Washington, finds virtual meetings more appropriate for LGBTQ. “I feel safe sitting next to my houseplants, so I am more present and more authentic to myself: I wear dresses and express my strange sexuality without worrying that someone will follow me home.”
Many organizations have meetings specifically for people of color, certain age groups or even professions. Ben’s Friends is a sobriety support group aimed at restaurant workers. “We speak a common language in restaurants,” said co-founder Steve Palmer. “You know, ‘Okay, he’s a cook. She is a bartender. These are my people. “
Find out what recovery means to you.
If your month of sobriety was relatively easy to accomplish, then just consider resetting it. But if you have trouble sticking to your plan, you may need more than group meetings. You may have AUD, which is a disease, not a moral defect, and requires treatment like any disease. The most effective form of recovery usually includes long-term behavioral therapies and community support, as well as medication if needed.