Honey Emmy: The other day a woman I work with brought her 8-month-old grandson around the office. He was a charming, wonderful boy, and obviously very proud to show it.
My colleague, who is white, told me that her grandson's mother is black.
I'm from the Caribbean, and we've always had a much quieter attitude to racial mixing.
This baby's parents are unmarried and just get out of high school, but I do not judge them.
What I'm struggling with is that this child does not seem to be birch at all. It is very dark. No one at home will believe for a second that this child has a white parent. But people in America do not seem as understood as we are about these things.
I do not know the son of this woman, and I definitely can not offer a paternity test. But I also want to say that nothing can be right.
I hate this young man to keep a child who is not his, even if I do not know him.
Mind, yeah – you're terrible.
Thinking is one thing – no one can polish your thoughts. But yes, the speculation about a baby's race or DNA kinship that you've just met once is the least awful-neighboring. I hope you will keep your thoughts for yourself.
I know African-Americans who are light-skinned and freckled. I have family members of races who are dark, while their brothers and sisters are honest. racial identity does not make you an arbitrator on how to identify other people.
In short, stop.
Honey Emmy: What are our obligations to friends in social media?
I have a college friend (30 years ago). One summer we were roommates in a social circle. I did not see him from college. Now he is in the middle of the whole country.
He is a good soul with mental health problems and has recently divorced. There are constant cries for help in social media, with friends (old and new) who recommend social services, creative living conditions and more.
I talked to another friend recently who said they had a similar experience to see friends in need across the country in social media.
I gave financial support (I'm financially comfortable) and some ideas for social services.
What is realistic about what people can do from a distance? How can we help people on the verge of homelessness and / or the mental health crisis?
Although it's not fair, I find myself a little offended that people put everything there.
Emphasized by Afar
DEAR SOCIETY: Social media has made sharing of personal information easy and people use it to varying degrees to reach them. Please do not blame your old friend for sending SOS. The very sharing of its vulnerability in this way could be beneficial to it.
What you do not need to do is to decide on specific solutions. You were kind to send him money, but you – and your friends – can not save him by your good recommendations. However, you can continue to tell him you care about him and think about him. Sometimes it is necessary to establish a border: "I'm sorry I can not help you anymore, but I hope you always know I care for you." To get spontaneously to him: "How are you? I was thinking about you. Share the memory you are sharing. Let him know that he is not alone. Dear Emmy: I laughed so hard on the issue of "Collector of Unwanted Arts," about an artist who was barely engaged in finishing a picture of "Unwanted" [naked]
As an artist I draw pets and many abstracts.
I can just copy the same little white dog for everyone and call it good.
The artist was probably bored to death with the theme!
DEAR NAME: As a creative person, I understand the pressure I do not do well. I agree that boredom is definitely a factor.
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